Time passes in the blink of an eye. Before you know it, you are in your 30s, wondering where the last decade went. Or, you might be even in your forties or fifties, asking yourself the same questions like "Why am I stuck in this boring routine?" and "Is this all there is to life?" Each day, you blindly march to the same metronomic beat. Research shows that people are quick to feel regret mainly for things we haven't done, as opposed to something we have done. In their metanalytic review of 11 regret studies, researchers Neal Roese and Amy Summerville discovered the top six domains participants reported experiencing regret (in descending order): education, career, romance, parenting, self, and leisure.((NCBI:
What We Regret Most … and Why)) Drastic change is not essential to start basking in new rays of sunshine in your life. You'll discover that hidden gems are sparkling with excitement in the most unsuspecting places. You just need to learn how to see them more closely through a different lens.
1. Remember You Are Never Too Old to Learn
In 1936, Anne Martindell dropped out of Smith College at the end of her first year, subject to her father's disapproval of women being educated.((NY Times:
Anne C. Martindell, Late Bloomer, Lawmaker and Diplomat, Is Dead at 93)) In 2002, Martindell returned to Smith College to accomplish both her undergraduate and honorary degrees at the age of 87. Even after serving a colorful career in politics, including becoming State Senator of New Jersey and Ambassador to New Zealand and Western Samoa, Martindell wanted to go back to school. While going back to formal schooling might not have you champing at the bit, there is no time like the present to exercise your curiosity. The opportunity to learn about pretty much anything is at your fingertips if you have access to a computer. Even Harvard and Oxford universities offer their courses online! Is there a piece of Martindell within you? Have you started anything that you didn't get to finish? Is there something you always wanted to learn about or a skill you wanted to develop? You get to make this learning adventure as long or short as you want. Most importantly, choose an activity that excites you and tickles you emotionally and mentally in all the right places.
2. Never Take the Same Road Twice
A good friend once whispered a golden rule to me that she always stuck to when she traveled in her 20s and still applies today: "Never go the same route twice." Some of the most incredible places she discovered in her travels were due to forcing herself to get off the beaten track. My friend used to stray away from mass tour groups and guides' conventional recommendations. In return, she met incredible locals who shared the undocumented history of the places she was visiting, including stories that were only passed down through word of mouth, generation to generation. You don't have to travel anywhere you haven't visited to experience that, though. You can make incredible discoveries by becoming an expert tourist in your own hometown or village! When you walk the dog, for instance, go to a street that you haven't entered before. Go barista speed-dating and get your morning brew at a different café than your usual haunt. Start taking minor detours and routes to shake up your boring routine. You won't just discover new places but likely bump into some fascinating people along the way, too.
3. Introduce More' Play' at Work
When your workday is flooded with a never-ending to-do list, your pre-frontal cortex is swamped. With continuous demands to produce something, completing tasks, planning, and critically evaluating how to improve your work, you may become cognitively numb by midday. Continuing down this road may cause you to think of walking entirely away from the job that you used to love. Somehow, you will stop remembering how to enjoy it. To avoid that, doing fun activities in your workplace can have you tap-dancing your way to work instead of dragging your feet. According to a recent survey, Talent LMS found 89% of respondents reported they felt more productive, and 88% reported feeling happier after using gamified elements at work.((Talent LMS:
The 2019 Gamification at Work Survey)) While it takes some planning, creativity, and consultation with colleagues and employees, transforming your work experience is possible. It can reignite and completely change your boring workplace routine. Gamification doesn't have to be complicated. The simpler, the better! For instance, designate an area for small games such as junior-sized skittles, quoits, golf-putting, or darts. For every task that you complete, specify different numbers of tries. When you achieve successful wins, reward yourself with something that's equivalent to your efforts. Similarly, you can decide on rewards for a specific number of wins. If you don't have time for board games, consider having short-term 'races' with colleagues to get things done. Say, you might be working on activities with unique completion targets. Then, you can compete on who manages to reach their goals first or the deadline you have agreed upon among yourselves. In this case, try setting short time-frame targets. Compare how you both went at the deadline. Review and share your progress or lack thereof. You might work on individual projects, but you still are driving, supporting each other. Thus, you can connect with your colleagues in the process. Here are more ways to make a routine exciting again:
30 Ways To Add Fun To Your Daily Routine
4. Tap Into Your Creativity
The benefits of having a creative outlet are numerous. You are not only learning something else but also allowing those parts of your brain that churn and burn through your workday to take a breather. Creating something from scratch can be intensely satisfying and rewarding emotionally and psychologically. You can undergo an emotional journey, igniting your senses in different ways and intensities. Undertaking a manual labor type of projects such as pottery, woodwork, interior design, or renovation can have you accessing a fuller range of emotions. It can be intensely satisfying to see the pieces of your creative jigsaw puzzle come together. Even if you don't feel you have a creative bone in your body, reading creative literature (e.g., poetry, screenplays, or autobiographies) or viewing artworks causes you to feel pleasure. As you read, you subconsciously search for individual connections with what you are reading. The more you search for its value, the more pleasurable reward systems become activated. In your already full lifestyle, consider planting spots in your schedule that allow you to let your creative juices show. Be curious. Experiment. You may be amazed once you
discover the passions and talents you haven't realized you have.
5. Create Daily Experiential goals
Working through your great bucket list (and continually adding to it) is highly recommended. However, you can also enjoy small-scale tasters (as listed below):
- When you go out, order something you would not usually order.
- Visit a restaurant you wouldn't usually visit.
- Take a different route to get to a destination that you visit regularly.
- Listen to a different podcast (or parts thereof) each day about something you want to learn or are merely curious about.
- Let your brain breathe and escape by listening to an audiobook.
- Go to lunch with a different colleague.
- Try to have a walk-and-talk meeting instead of conducting them all in the office.
- Discover and listen to new artists on your Spotify account when exercising or wanting some audio company.
- Add a minute of crazy, free-form dancing to the end of your exercise routine before you cool down.
Do one thing every day that is a little left field of your everyday habits and routines. In a short space of time, it may be able to lift your mood. The great thing is that none of these ideas require you to acquire or purchase any tools to experience them or make them happen. You can also decide to do these activities on a whim, considering they don't require grand planning or assistance. This article might help you, too:
10 Simple Ways to Add Spontaneity into Your Daily Routine
6. Surprise Someone or Be Surprised
Say goodbye to a boring routine and say hello to spontaneity! Doing so helps reignite not just your personal life but your work life as well. With your intimate partner or close friends, for instance, write down the things you would love to experience or receive on different pieces of paper and put them in a jar. Allow them to pull one out and surprise you with it at any time! Then, do the same for your friends or partner. Giving presents and gifts is not the ultimate goal here. Instead, it's about creating opportunities for unexpected delight. It's about showing someone how much you appreciate, value, and recognize their presence in your life. Dr. Gary Chapman described the five love languages: physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, giving gifts, and quality time.((The 5 Love Languages:
The 5 Love Languages)) Even if intimacy is its primary focus, his suggestions help deepen love in all human relationships. Don't wait for special occasions to surprise someone. Random acts of kindness often speak louder than words both in your personal and work life.
7. Learn the Art of Giving
Researchers Dr. Tristen Inagaki and Dr. Naomi Eisenberger found that we experience pleasure when we give to others more than when we receive it. In a study, they found the participants providing support to others trying to complete a challenging task had less activation in stress-response areas.((PubMed:
The Neurobiology of Giving Versus Receiving Support: The Role of Stress-Related and Social Reward-Related Neural Activity)) Similarly, those who offered support activated parts of the brain associated with caregiving and experiencing intrinsic reward and personal satisfaction. Quitting your boring routine doesn't always mean focusing inwardly and crafting grand plans to alter everything. You can improve your life by directing your attention toward supporting and helping someone else. Giving compliments costs nothing. Neither does making someone a cup of coffee when you're about to make one yourself. Declutter your home and workspace and post items you no longer need on give-away platforms. If you have incredible skills and knowledge in an area, you can become someone's mentor. There can be no better way to feel alive than by building and nurturing positive connections.
8. Shake Up Your Boring Routine Regularly
Quitting your boring routine starts with disrupting it, to the point that it can no longer be called as such. However, be careful not to introduce too much disruption at once. Consider introducing a change in small amounts to test if everything goes well for you. Review your initial experiences but don't give up too early if you're not feeling instantly gratified. Anything outside a boring routine can feel jarring, even if it comes from a healthy and positive change. Instead, give yourself time to adjust and let the new become gradually familiar. In a short period, your routine can be far from boring as you start seeing and experiencing the world through a new lens.
Is It Time to Upgrade Your Image?
Coco Chanel famously said that when a woman cuts her hair, she is about to change her life. The decision to interpret Chanel's quote literally or metaphorically is 100% up to you. However, on a more subtle note, you might want to consider doing something different with your image or everyday look all the same. When you look back pleasantly at a different reflection of yourself in the mirror, you won't be able to help but feel different. It will reveal another side of you that's never been unleashed before. You're likely to get mixed reactions from the people you see regularly, but that's okay.
“No matter what happens, always keep your childhood innocence. It’s the most important thing.” — Federico Felini
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