Can you recall some of the awkward moments you came across when trying to get to know someone? Like you were invited to a friend’s house party, you wanted to be friendly with the people there but you just didn’t know how to start a conversation because you were so afraid that people’d just think you’re a boring person to talk to and you really couldn’t stand that kind of harsh rejection.
One of the biggest reasons for this is our fear of not being interesting enough. We worry that we’re born to be boring and it’s just something inside of us that can hardly be turned around.
But what if I tell you that you can easily make friends with others, and that YOU cannot be boring at all?
You don’t need to have extraordinary experiences or achievements, you only need to be true to yourself if you want to be interesting.
Forget about trying so hard to impress others, because you can’t succeed in impressing everyone.
What’s more important is how you feel inside. You don’t have to hide any emotions that you think are ‘boring’—being loyal to yourself is interesting enough, and you just have to be confident in yourself when you try to talk with others. Don’t be afraid to let others learn about the real you.
Try to open up to others — even if it means being a little vulnerable.
In fact, making yourself vulnerable to others is key to making close friends. You should talk about personal stuff when meeting someone new and stop worrying too much. They can feel that you are being real and they will trust you more because of that.
Being open and personal is the basis for establishing any close relationships. It allows others to understand you. And you yourself will be happier too.[1]
However ordinary you think you are, people would appreciate it when you are sincere and open about your inner feelings, and will be happy to be around you.
To be interesting simply means to be able and willing to express your true feelings honestly.
Practice being comfortable with yourself and go out to meet people.
Connecting with others requires you to share your feelings honestly, and you won’t be able to do that without accepting who you really are as a person.
Try to figure out what ‘being yourself’ means for you, and don’t try to be someone you are not.[2] Don’t worry about how others might judge you and keep in mind that you’re not trying to impress others, but trying to make friends you would enjoy spending time around. So forcing yourself to act like someone else will not be helpful.
Although every person you meet may be different, it is always a good idea to gain more experience. Don’t be shy. Go out and talk to people. You can actually learn from the past experience and improve the way you approach people.
You may not always succeed in making a new friend but it’s okay, you just have to keep trying because you’ll know better next time.
Reference
| [1] | ^ | Barking Up The Wrong Tree: This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research |
| [2] | ^ | Personality Tutor: Socializing with People |
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