I’m going to tell you the secrets on how to start taking action on your dreams. The even better news is that these are actionable tips you can start today! The first thing I want you to do is think back to when you were a child. Our childhood selves hold many of the secrets to realizing our real life dreams. Think about what you loved to do most and how you told yourself it was possible without worrying about what might get in the way. I’d like you to reconnect to your imagination and playfulness. By taking the following steps, you’ll do some playing and storytelling to reveal your dreams and start making them come true.
1. Tell Your Story
Your life story is unique and has brought you here today. The next chapter of your life is in your power to write and to realize. Not everything that happens to you is in your control((Forbes:
6 Ways To Stop Stressing About Things You Can't Control)), but the actions you take and how you choose to feel about what happens
are in your control. Finding out what our future lives and dream lives might look like can be done effectively through the eyes of our childhood selves. Can you remember what you loved to do most as a child? Maybe you enjoyed collecting things like me–I always had a collection of pebbles in a carrier bag that smelled of seawater nestled under my bed. Perhaps you loved taking care of your pets: I had a dog, a tortoise, and many guinea pigs. Or maybe you were really great at making stuff. You can use the instincts, passions, and skills you had as a child to fuel your progress toward your adult dreams. I’m inviting you to really think about what you wanted to be when you grew up((CNN:
What's the perfect job for you? Ask your five-year-old self)) and the memorable activities you enjoyed as a child, the ones that gave you a real sense of freedom and excitement, or the pursuits that you truly lost yourself in. What we call getting into our flow state((BBC:
The ‘flow state’: Where creative work thrives)) as an adult is what came naturally to us as children. So, go back there now and think about how that felt. It may clue you in to what still remains true and important to you today.
2. Define Your Dream
The first secret when you want to take action on your dreams is to know what they are. This sounds obvious, but so many people only have a loose definition, such as: "more free time," or "more money." Busy people know there is something else to life apart from slaving away for a job, or a boss they don’t like, but if you’re too busy to even know what your dream looks like, how can you make it come true? Once again, I’d invite you to connect to the optimism and playfulness of your childhood self. Go back to thinking about what your dreams involved at age seven or eight. Some of those may still be what you want today. Now write down what it is that you want and when you want to achieve it. Note down how you’ll know when you’ve got there and made this dream come true. How will you measure your success?
Be as specific about your goals as you can. A study at the Dominican University in California((Dominican University:
Goals Research Summary)) proved that writing down your goals, accountability, and commitment are three key ingredients to successfully achieving our goals.
3. Picture Your Dream Coming True
Think about exactly how it will feel when you do achieve your dream. The sense of freedom and excitement. What will it look like, smell like, taste like. Imagine it in as much detail as you can. If you’re finding it hard to imagine a different life, imagine a childhood memory with all its sensations. As a little girl, I loved to ice-skate, making huge swirly patterns across clean expanses of beautiful glistening ice. The feeling of freedom, of trust in myself to balance, of speed. It felt very immersive, the coldness and my breath turning into little clouds in front of my face. Rosy cheeks and the happy ache of my legs afterwards. Imagine a childhood memory like this, then imagine the future you want, with as much detail and attention paid to how it looks, feels, tastes, smells and sounds. Draw, paint, speak, or write your
future story. If you loved to create pictures like I did as a child, or write stories, or play on the computer, use your natural creative skills and what you love doing to map out your exciting future. You could create a picture,
vision board, written story, or audio file. Remember to include specifics. What is your dream exactly? What does it look and feel like, and how will you know when you’ve reached it? Let’s put that future story somewhere you can easily access it. Make sure that you include a timescale for when you want to achieve this dream by, how you will measure your success, and what you need to get there. If possible, start breaking your dream down into small, manageable steps.
4. What Part Do You Play?
You can’t control everything, so you need to be realistic about your role in making your future dreams come true when you really want to take action on your dreams. Think about where you need help. Once again, go back to childhood. We were not afraid to ask for help from a parent, friend, or sibling to realize our dreams and plans. Whatever we needed, our eager and enthusiastic childhood selves would reach out for support. We’d be resourceful with whatever we had to make our creative ideas a reality. As adults we also need to ask for support and help, and at the same time to notice what is in our control and what we can do to take action towards our dreams.
5. Who Can Support You?
If you’ve noticed you need a bit of help, then get the gang together. Which friends can cheer you on and which can connect you? Who in your family will indulge in your dreams with you? What about the pragmatic ones who might help you work out what you need to get there? Whether you need someone to check in on you and see how you’re progressing, or need a buddy to brainstorm with to help the ideas flow, bring a few of your friends into the plan to help you move forward.
6. Ensure Your Dream Is Realistic
Maybe the dream you’ve outlined just feels impossible. It costs too much or will take too much time to achieve. Instead of telling yourself "no, but," try the "yes, and" approach. This is much more representative of how a child’s mind works. When we were little, we weren’t scared to fail as failing was not a concept to us back then. Let’s harness some of that kid energy and see how "yes, and" can move us forward when our dream feels unrealistic. Let’s look at an example: maybe your dream is to have a hit record, and you think you can’t sing, or you don’t believe you have any musical talent. Instead of closing that down, if we "yes, and" it, we can say: “I want to have a hit record. Yes, and there are so many ways to achieve that. Some people have a hit record by working for a music business, and others might design the cover art. Some people speak on records instead of singing… yes, and someone has to write the lyrics or have the idea for the song. Yes, and I know someone who organizes a choir every Christmas at their local bar, and everyone in the bar is on the record. That amateur choir even got on TV as it was so much fun and all the money went to charity.” So, before you decide your idea is unrealistic, try "yes, and-ing" it to see how you can take action on your dreams, even if you think it sounds impossible!
7. Use Small Wins and Rewards
On your journey toward achieving your dream, there will be
small wins and important milestones; it’s not just about going straight to the destination. Measuring your progress is important and can be a chance to celebrate. Finding a way to measure it that is visible can really help. Whether it’s a chart or an app, whatever you choose, following and celebrating your progress is key, and celebrating that win is part of the joy. Being in the process and on the journey is just as important as reaching your target. Celebrate with the happiness of a small child…do a dance, take a photo, tell your friends.
8. Update the Map
You might find the plan you made isn’t working for some reason. Things have changed, and your goals and targets are not working out for you. That’s ok! Let’s look at how you can change things up and put new life and energy into the project. Take it apart and put it back together again. Define the new plan and the new goals, and start on the next phase of the journey, equipped with the knowledge and learning from what didn’t work.
9. Make Space
Achieving our dreams might mean losing something else, and that’s ok. It could be a literal swap, such as giving up wine to save money towards the goal. Or it could be something more ideological, like giving up saying yes to everything to make more time to focus on your pursuits. Think about what you can give up to make space for your dreams.
10. Use Your Superpower
What’s
your superpower? Use this to take action on your dreams today! Perhaps you’re awesome at using your network to find solutions to problems. If that sounds like you, then consider picking up the phone and start asking for some ideas and connections. If you prefer to research, get reading or watching TED talks and presentations to find practical ways to achieve your particular dream. Who else has overcome a similar problem? How did they do it? What can you borrow from what they learned, and what can you learn from how they won or lost along the way?
11. Keep Your Energy up
Remember to take a rest and recharge on the journey towards your dreams. Take breaks, eat and sleep well, exercise, and listen to and tune in to what your body and mind needs to thrive.
Final Thoughts
Achieving your dreams is unlikely to be an overnight task. It’s more likely to be a winding road with setbacks, lessons, obstacles, and new discoveries. Enjoy the journey! It might take years, but every step, no matter how tiny, can be enjoyed, even the struggles. Maintaining a mindset around enjoying the journey will really equip you to thrive and see those ambitious dreams become a reality.
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